Forever Letters

Your words are worth more than you realize.

Meet Lindsay.

Your Letter-Writing Partner

Dear You,

Parenting is a lifetime achievement, one that carries value beyond measure. Surely, you've expressed your emotions about it throughout the journey. But, have you written your child a proper love letter to describe the whole of it? Such a simple concept, and yet, an overwhelming task.

I help fellow parents write what I call Forever Letters : end-of-life love letters to one's child that accompany a will. These letters shine light on a lifetime of parental devotion, and they become a valuable part of one's legacy.

Our written words have the power to ignite emotions, provide comfort, strengthen connection, heal pain and soothe grief. Memories are trickyfading and changing with timebut words can be precisely preserved.

Articulating feelings in writing doesn't come easily for all, but it's what I do best. This work is my honor and joy. I'm here to help you document aspects of your parental legacy by leaving your kids the loving closure they will treasure.

xo Lindsay

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The Benefits:

Planning for your end-of-life is an extension of intentional living. Writing about your parental legacy and perspective in a love letter tends to be overwhelmingly positive, important, purposeful, relieving, and (surprisingly) fun. You'll gain:

01

Peace of mind

Inner calm is the result of knowing that your sentiments are thoughtfully expressed and that the aftermath of your death will begin (for them) with your personal connection.

02

Clarity

Clarity on your parental legacy; clarity on who you consider your child to be and what your relationship has meant to you; clarity on your most valuable advice and your hopes for their individual becoming; clarity on how you want to continue parenting them.

03

Closeness

Prepare to discover a deeper, soul-level connection with your child once you've landed on actual words that explain your feelings.

04

Gratitude

Forever Letter writing organically unearths many spots of gratitude, and that simple awareness is profoundly positive.

Lindsay’s patience and gentle prompting made such an overwhelming subject approachable. She has such a gift.

— Patricia H.

letter options

Independent Letter

For those wanting framework and personalized inspiration to independently write their Forever Letter .

  • 2-hour live Clarity Call over Zoom with Lindsay to help shape your ideas and sentiments
  • Lindsay’s detailed call notes and insights
  • Easy-to-follow template for your Forever Letter writing

$300

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Polished Letter

For those wanting to write their Forever Letter with the fine-tuning and feedback of an English teacher + writer.

  • Everything listed in Independent Letter
  • (1) round of Lindsay's editorial polish

$500

Custom Letter

For those wanting their thoughts efficiently transformed into their ideal Forever Letter.

  • 2-hour live Clarity Call over Zoom with Lindsay to gather info and become acquainted with your unique voice
  • Ghost-written Forever Letter by Lindsay within 10 days
  • (1) round of client feedback on first draft
  • (1) re-write by Lindsay into a polished copy

$700

FAQs

Do you offer other letter-writing services?

Yes, clients hire me for help with LAUNCH LETTERS: a moment-marking love letter in the approach of a major transition, to commemorate a life’s rhythm and parent-child relationship that will forever-after be changed. And with LIFE LETTERS: a time-capsule love letter to preserve the nature of your relationship that is ordinary at present, but will one day only exist in memories. (Same pricing packages as listed above.)

I also ghost write for toasts, eulogies, obituaries, occasion letters, Forever Letters to aging parents, or the like. My standard $150/hr rate applies. Inquire directly with me via email at connect@theeverwell.com or by scheduling a Discovery Call.

Can I read examples of your letter-writing?

I'm happy to share examples of letters I've written after we've connected on a Discovery Call. Because of the highly personal nature of my clients' letters, and my commitment to maintaining confidentiality, examples are restricted to my personal letters. My writing can be found on my Substack and YouTube channel.

Why leave a Forever Letter?

The aftermath of death, for the grieving survivors, is largely administrative, and the focus is mostly on one kind of worth—one’s net worth: assets, estate, ownership, inheritance, etc. There's a huge gaping hole when it comes to personal worth: the value of who you’ve been, and how you’ve loved, and the worth of your unique parent-child relationship. Wills, by design, are void of emotion. And yet, emotions are, arguably, the most valuable part of human life.

Including a Forever Letter in your end-of-life planning, shines light on and honors a lifetime of parental love, devotion and connection. And it enables your voice and sentiments to guide your child through the process of estate administration after your death.

Will my forever letter be included in my will?

Great question! You'd think it should be. The truth is that a love letter is not a legal matter. Lawyers must keep emotions out of the will entirely. Trust and estate plans and directives must be black and white; and emotions, by nature, live in the grays of life. After writing your Forever Letter, you can request that your lawyer keeps it as a "side letter" that gets delivered alongside the will. Or, alternatively, my recommendation is that you keep a distinct folder or fireproof safe at home that your next of kin knows to open at the time of your passing. Your Forever Letter can live there until it's read by the intended recipient.

What is ghost-writing?

When a professional writer writes on your behalf, as if they are you. For a Custom Letter, I will write your letter as if I'm you, based on all the details and information collected in the Clarity Call.

I didn't know this was a thing. Is it?

Well, sort of. Ethical wills, also called legacy letters, are a place to capture one’s personal values, beliefs, love, gratitude and apologies. And the practice of writing them has existed for millennia, but is an uncommon practice in the modern age of end-of-life preparations. But the practice of encapsulating one’s experience of parenthood in a direct love letter to one’s child is a practice that some think to do independently, but it's not protocol with will and estate planning. (Will & Estate Lawyers typically aren't interested in or equipped to handle the emotional side of deathI've asked many of them, and they're the first to say it.)

The term Forever Letter is one that I've coined, and my hope is to normalize love letter writing as part of end-of-life planning. To learn more, I describe the genesis of Forever Letters here. And I open up about my experience of writing Forever Letters to my three kids here.

If I have more than one child and want to write individual Forever Letters to each, how does pricing work ?

Each letter option outlines the price for (1) letter with one recipient. That's because each recipient of a Forever Letter requires their own 2-hour Zoom call to gather all the details of the relationship that are required to write the letter. For each requested sibling letter, clients receive a $100 discount on listed pricing.

How do I begin?

Let's talk and see if we're meant to be letter-writing partners. Connect directly with me via email at connect@theeverwell.com or by scheduling a free Discovery Call below.

Lindsay Hurty, Ed.M., is a Harvard-educated self-development specialist and the founder of Everwell and Self School. A talented writer—and former high school English teacher—Lindsay's writing can be found on her Substack and YouTube channel.